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Why Do We Care About Melania's Wardrobe Choices?

Melania's careless jacket flap provides an opening

Normally, I think the reaction most people have to women's wardrobe choices are hypercritical if not at least overblown. We pay such close attention to women's appearance from their hair to their "wardrobe choice." Shouldn't we focus on women's actions? Their words?

But, wait. This was her words.

"Melania chose to display a statement in plain English on her body while representing the United States on an official trip in her official capacity as first lady. The content of her "message" -- of THIS message -- is most certainly fair game for public comment. Consider that Melania Trump, a former fashion model, knows exactly what she is wearing. How are we to trust her sincerity now after this jaw-dropping affront?

"Here is the problem: The role of the first family is TO care -- about the country and the world"

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Where A Taboo Is Leading To The Deaths Of Young Girls


      The world is full of so much pain and injustice, with causes of that often involving severe sexism and religious or quasi-religious belief. Another excruciating example:


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      Why We Aren't Having Babies


          I was born into a fairly large, Italian family, and when I look across the generations at my cousins, I realize that out of more than twenty of us, we have had only half as many children overall. Some of us have had no children at all, and others have had one or two-- even on my mother's extremely religious side of the family where fertility is supposed to be a core tenant of the faith, my cousins have a max family birth rate of two children, with some of them having had one or none. Unlike some of our parents, we have chosen not to have many children, for a variety of reasons. In our generation, this has become the norm.

          Realizing the penalties for parenthood, and motherhood in particular, has restricted our desire for having many children. Not only is it expensive to have a child, but for women, it can be detrimental to earning a living and saving for retirement. America is going the way of Japan in terms of the financial crisis that looms as one generation ages out of the work force without enough youth to replace them.

          Our culture makes it too hard to become a parent because of the lack of social and financial support. Most families need two incomes just to survive, and childcare is expensive and prohibitive for many. Also, our generation moves often and far for work, and is without extended family members living in the area to help out for childcare. If a family has two children, it can cost one partner's entire income just to pay for childcare. Instead of embracing and supporting families, like some politicians seem to claim, we have created an environment that is inhospitable for them. "Family values" has become an empty promise in America.

          Children have become a luxury for the wealthier among us.

          Everyone Is Missing A Key Reason The U.S. Birth Rate Is Declining

          In the U.S., women are essentially punished for having kids.
          Katia Hills and her son. She says she's afraid to have another kid after the discrimination she faced at work the first time
          Katia Hills and her son. She says she’s afraid to have another kid after the discrimination she faced at work the first time around.

          Katia Hills, a healthy 27-year-old married woman, said she was afraid to have another child after what happened the last time.

          Before she got pregnant with her son in 2014, Hills was working at an AT&T store in Elkhart, Indiana, where her career was taking off. She was promoted to sales rep after just a few months. She loved her work selling cellphones and tablets. Her evaluations were good.

          Then her managers learned she was expecting. The punishments piled up, according to a discrimination lawsuit she filed against AT&T last week in federal court. If Hills needed to go to the doctor or was late because of morning sickness, she was docked a “point.” Employees who lose enough points under AT&T’s system face the possibility of losing their jobs.

          The points started adding up. At the same time, Hills observed that her nonpregnant colleagues did not get any penalties when they were late to work.

          “I was being treated a lot different,” Hills told HuffPost. “It was devastating.”

          In an emailed statement, AT&T said it’s reviewing Hills’ complaint. “We do not tolerate discrimination of any kind, including for an employee’s gender or pregnancy.” The company noted it provides “generous benefits,” including various types of paid and unpaid days off and leaves of absence.

          I was being treated a lot different. It was devastating.Katia Hills

          Pregnancy and the arrival of a new child should be a time of joy and excitement, but for working women in the United States, it’s often a time of financial stress and uncertainty. Women who dare become mothers are subject to additional discrimination, bias and harassment.

          Is it any wonder they’re having fewer children?

          Last week, the CDC released a report revealing that the U.S. birth rate ― the number of babies born nationwide ― is the lowest it’s been in 30 years and is below the “replacement” rate needed to sustain the population.

          One New York Times article said “social factors” explained the decline; women were putting off childbirth in favor of their careers, and an opinion piece on Friday blamed the patriarchy. Bloomberg said economic factors were the culprit. Conservatives blamed social media and pornography, claiming everyone is just having less sex. Fox News personality Tucker Carlson twisted his argument until he somehow pinpointed male immigrants as the culprit.

          But all of these stories ignore a basic reality: Most women in the U.S., even before they get pregnant, know how little social support exists for them as mothers.

          A shocking 88 percent of workers get no paid leave in the United States, according to the Labor Department. About 1 in 4 mothers go back to work less than two weeks after giving birth, according to a 2015 report. This often leads to devastating health outcomes for parents and babies.

          Having kids often isn’t financially viable.

          For low-income women, motherhood can throw you into poverty. For higher-earners, pregnancy knocks you off track for promotions and pay raises.

          A clear wage penalty for mothers is also not helping. Even though more than 70 percent of families rely on a mother’s income, moms working full time earn about 71 percent of what fathers make, according to a March report from the Washington Center for Equitable Growth. That’s a full 9 points lower than the average gender wage gap.

          “To the extent that some women would want to be mothers if it was financially viable, but don’t want to risk good careers or poverty, that’s not a free choice,” said Elizabeth Oltmans Ananat, an associate professor in the Sanford School of Public Policy at Duke. “Women are painted into a corner.”

          Birth rates are rising for older women and declining for younger ones, according to CDC data.

          Though the economy has recovered from its crash in the previous decade, the economic picture for many families has not. Wages are stagnant in the United States, despite low unemployment. A recent study from the Federal Reserve showed that 4 in 10 Americans don’t have an extra $400 for an emergency expense.

          Ananat also points to rising levels of student loan debt, a weakened social safety net, a historically low minimum wage and a declining number of good jobs for less-educated women and men. Combine that with a lack of paid leave and “rampant discrimination” against mothers, and women like Hills are starting to think they can’t afford a baby.

          The reality of being a woman — by the numbers.

          “We’ve done better at getting these women access to contraception,” she said. “But we haven’t made it financially viable to have children.”

          What’s more, as economic prospects for men have declined in recent years, women have increasingly become primary breadwinners.

          Hills said she didn’t really think about any of these economic concerns before she got pregnant. She was shocked by what happened.

          Despite racking up penalty points at AT&T, Hills was able to make it through to maternity leave, which the company does offer. But her boss made that rough, too. He called her a lot, asking when she’d come back; she spoke to him about returning part-time, for starters. He said he’d allow that, but only if she came back four weeks after giving birth. She declined.

          The second day Hills returned from maternity leave, she was told she had accrued too many points and was fired.

          “I just felt shattered. I just saw so much potential with that company,” she said.

          Women at every income level get punished for having kids.

          Higher-educated professionals also fear motherhood, and not without reason: Women who become mothers are often viewed as less invested in work, even if there’s no indication that’s true.

          Women who worked at law firm Morrison Foerster sued the firm this year for putting them on the “mommy track,” a road that leads to lower salaries, less prestigious work and fewer promotions.

          The suit alleges that when the women became mothers, the firm pressured them to work longer hours but also denied them assignments “because of stereotype-driven perceptions that they lack commitment to their jobs.”

          “The stereotype becomes self-reinforcing, and women become stuck,” the suit said.

          For reasons like these, female lawyers are 16 percent less likely than their male counterparts to have a child before their law firm makes a decision about whether or not they become partners, according to a yet-to-be-published working paper from economists at Wellesley College and the U.S. Naval Academy.

          That means female lawyers delay having children until their late thirties, explained Nayoung Rim, one of the study’s co-authors.

          The percentage of lawyers delaying childbirth is higher in states with fewer work-family benefits and higher reported levels of sexism, Rim said.

          The study also found that mothers who did get promoted to lucrative partner positions were often far more qualified for them than their male peers ― indicating that mothers face a higher “promotion threshold,” Rim said. If you have a child, you must work even harder to overcome the stereotype that you’re not devoted to your work.

          “They expect women to prove themselves even more relative to a man,” she said.

          Rim believes the study’s findings can be extended to other high-demand careers, including in consulting and academia. They also help explain one piece of CDC data: The only age group that’s seen birth rates rise since the previous report is women ages 35-44.

          For women earning low wages, there never seems to be a good time for parenthood.

          Left with only one income to depend on, Hills and her husband eventually moved in with his parents. Their dream to buy a house went “out the window,” she said.

          Two law firms and the American Civil Liberties Union are now representing Hills and another former AT&T employee who also said she was discriminated against. The hope is that more women will join the litigation and force AT&T to change its policy, which the suit says violates federal anti-discrimination laws.

          “I don’t want anyone to feel what I felt in worrying about starting a family,” Hills said.

          As her son approaches his third birthday, Hills and her husband have managed to move into an apartment, and she has a new job in sales. Still, she doesn’t feel safe enough for pregnancy.

          “I’m scared to have a second child because of what I went through,” she said. “I wish I didn’t feel this way. It’s beautiful to have a family. Having a son is the most amazing thing, and I wish I could’ve enjoyed it with none of this extra stress.”


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          Pundit Post

          Morgan Freeman 'devastated' That Sexual Harassment Claims Could Undermine Legacy

          The ME TOO movement is over the top. When men Like Morgan Freeman get smart enough, they will begin pushing allegations of sexual harassment on the part of women all the way to the Supreme Court if necessary. When the Supreme Court is finished defining what sexual harassment is and what it is not, women who have pushed this issue will create a great loss for other women who have truly had their autonomy violated . Go ahead and keep pushing this issue, and the consequences of doing so will end up not being very good for women overall. Individual women will not longer be able to define sexual harassment in the narrow understanding they have of it themselves.

          Is Bill Cosby a predator? Absolutely!! How naive of women to think they can go to the apartment or hotel room of a man and not think that sex with them might be on the mind of the man wanting them in his apartment or hotel room. Get smarter lady's and suggest that the future be discussed in an open setting with other people around. Dinner would be a nice choice over making an appearance at the door of a man's apartment or hotel room.

          Harvey Weinstein forced a woman to have oral sex with him. Really!! My wife says that he would had to have placed a gun to her head to get that type of behavior out of her. And what some people won't sell their soul for. Come on lady's try and be a little smarter!


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          Ruth Bader Ginsberg - Her Legacy.and Influence Beyond The Internet


              Before Ruth Bader Ginsberg Was A Meme, She Was A Feminist With A Radical Vision

              Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg (Getty)

              Justice Ginsberg, is an 85 year old Jewish grandmother who has served on the Supreme Court of the United States for 25 years. She is one of those women who we tell our daughters and grand-daughters about.

              A woman of conviction and great care for social justice and the rule of law, she didn't start out to be the Icon as so many of us see her.

              She had a radical vision of American women being treated as equal to American men under the Constitution of the United States. Several books have been written about this remarkable woman, and a film has been made that takes one through the early life of this small but mighty woman who stands firm for a strong and vital America.

              The film is titled 'RBG' and came out in select theaters on May 4th.

              Emma Grey interviewed her about the film, her life, and her thoughts, for the Huffington Post, and the following gives some highlights from that interview.

              Here is a link to the complete interview, including a trailer to the film about her, which is some very interesting reading:



              Chief Justice William Rehnquist (right) swears in Ginsburg to the Supreme Court in 1993 as husband Marty (center) a
              Chief Justice William Rehnquist (right) swears in Ginsburg to the Supreme Court in 1993 as husband Marty (center) and President Bill Clinton look on.

              “I saw myself as a kindergarten teacher,” Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg explains to the camera at one point during “RBG,” a documentary about, of course, herself.

              Ginsburg was talking about her attempt to get the Supreme Court justices of the 1970s (almost all white, all male) to understand the structural discrimination women faced under the law. During that decade, she argued six cases as an attorney in front of the Supreme Court, all of which had to do with gender discrimination in some capacity. This was Ginsburg’s strategy ― to educate the ignorant, bit by bit, year by year.

              Twenty years later, Ginsburg was appointed to serve on the Supreme Court, and 25 years after that, she’s still there. The film traces her early life in Brooklyn, as the daughter of Russian Jewish immigrants in New York; her education at Cornell, Harvard Law (where she was one of nine women) and Columbia Law; and the quiet, incremental work she did that ended up transforming the way women were seen under the law.

              “RBG,” which comes out on May 4, is a love letter to Ginsburg’s life. If you’re hoping for a critical analysis of her more centrist tendencies, this film isn’t it. But it does humanize the justice, who is not her “Saturday Night Live” caricature or her “Notorious” memes or the “vile” woman some decriers would paint her as. She’s a human woman, with complexity and vigor and a great sense of humor. She adored her husband and loves her grandchildren and works out like a boss and deeply believes in the ability of the United States to evolve as a nation.

              [In] the opening of the film. The first thing you hear is a series of voice-overs of powerful men criticizing RBG, calling her “vile.” The movie paints Ginsburg as somewhat of a radical figure, but also as someone who made a conscious choice to work within the system and through the system rather than directly against or outside the system.

              RELATED STORIES ABOUT GINSBERG on https://www.huffingtonpost.com/

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